Hey there everyone hope you are all having a great day and if not then I hope that I can help brighten your day or just help you feel a little better. I also hope you are all being safe out there and staying healthy mind, body, and soul! Okay, so you probably already figured out what I am going to talk about today from the title of this post. Boosting your mood after a loss in your life is harder than people think it is to be honest. If you have been on my blog for a while or read posts about my fertility journey then you would know that I lost my son Logan and besides that I have lost friends and family as well and the things that I am going to be going over are just a few things that have worked for me and just my advice and I am in no way a professional and I always encourage people to seek out professional help when dealing with loss.
Okay, so if you have been following my blog then you know that I have dealt with depression and anxiety my a majority of my life and it has been a crazy journey with dealing with everything. I still work on it daily and the way that I work on it has a few things that I revolve around so it works with what's going on in my life at the time. One thing though that is a constant is seeking out a therapist when I need to talk to someone and that is something that will never change. Besides that the things that I revolve between are: affirmations, journaling, meditation, exercise, rearranging my surroundings, the people that I surround myself with, and all the amazing strengths that I have and bring to the table. Now these things have worked for me and I share them because maybe they can work for you as well but I highly recommend seeing a professional as I think it is great to just be able to talk to someone judgment free.
Lets start with the affirmations, journaling, rearranging your surroundings, and meditation. All of these have one thing in common they have to suit you and be personal to you and your life, but I will say that one thing I stick too and want everyone to keep in mind is that you are worthy of love and blessings! You have to find a style for yourself and get your entire being in order when you go through loss. I know it has taken a long time to get to where I am now and it took a lot of night crying myself to sleep, lots of alone time, sleepless nights, and lots of wine and my favorite tv shows. At some point (and lets be honest I am not sure when that was) I started to say to myself I am okay not being okay and I started doing all the things I mentioned before and it took a lot of time to pull myself out of that deep dark hole but I did and it has become one the most worthy things I have been able to do for myself. I of course did things my way and when anyone starts doing something they know what works for them and what doesn't and that is their intuition, so I followed my intuition and did what felt right for me. I also of course changed around the furniture and it just gave our place a different vibe which I loved so much more. I start to workout again, really paid attention to the people around me (and let people go that were not good for my mental health or my situation at the time cause all they did was bring me down if I am being honest and made me feel like I was less than), and really started focusing on the fact that I have so many strengths and I am very worthy of happiness and worthy of having love in my life.
I can honestly say that therapy was such a big help for me and it really helped me accomplish the other things that I do to bring my mood up and when I say loss let me just say a loss is whatever truly hurts your heart and soul all the way down to your truest self. That is what I mean and for me it came to peak when we lost our son and I honestly thought I had already hit my rock bottom but that was very much it and it was hard. I won't lie it will be a hard journey and really eye opening and hurtful for you when you start trying to heal for your own sake but when you get to a better place where you can have bad days but they don't rule your life then all the hard times and low points and work you have put in and gone through will all be worth it. I know I didn't go into detail with a few things but that is because those things like journaling is a personal thing to you and your life and how ever you want to write is a personal preference for example if you want to just write what ever words come to your mind or you want to write poems or you write stories or you write a letter to yourself and sign it then you can do it and if you want to share then go a head or keep it private or start a blog or just write for you. That is all up to you and what you want to do and what works best for you and the same thing goes for all the other things that I listed above.
Well I hope that this really helped you find a place to start and showed you that you are not alone and a loss can be anything and people go through all of it all around the world and I hope that you can all feel loved and know that you are worthy of good things in life so even in the dark the smallest amount of light can shine even brighter and its up to you to walk towards it when you see if you want to. I am so happy all of you decided to come back and read this and if you have made it this far then thank you and you are amazing. Till next time!